Valentine’s Day & The Divine Feminine: Beyond the Bouquet
To be a Divine Feminine on Valentine’s Day is one of the most wild rides. I have been so deep in thought today—honestly overthinking most of the day. I have had so many feelings and thoughts coming to the surface almost at an overwhelming rate. The question I keep coming back to is: “How exactly are we meant to feel today?” I want to dig deeper into this because I know I am not alone.
The Mission of the Divine Feminine
Let’s start with the overall mission. We are meant to be in our feminine flow and be open to receiving. We are meant to live a life full of unconditional love and nurturing energy while also being total badasses. The more we stand in our inner truth, the more we break free from the molds of society. We are a part of the greater good—the great awakening.
But that doesn’t mean we aren't still living the human experience. So how do we balance that? How do we acknowledge our feelings while still standing in our Feminine energy?
The Wound of Over-Giving
In the past, I have been in long-term relationships, including being married twice. I’ve spent numerous Valentine’s Days in those relationships, yet I was maybe given a card once. In all those years of commitment, I was never made the priority. I was never shown the same love I gave to others. The random flowers? Never happened.
Fast forward to today, 2026, and I am spending the day with my children. These two will forever be my Valentines, but it didn’t change the depth of what I was feeling.
I know the song says, “I can buy myself flowers,” but that isn’t the point. I have spent years over-giving and over-stretching myself, thinking that would bring me the love I deserved—a pattern that goes all the way back to childhood. I recently told my best friend: “I want someone to fight as hard for me as I fight for them.” ## A Different Kind of Gift Instead of flowers or a card today, I received a message from my Divine Masculine. He reached out to say he was sorry for being MIA, but that he would be for a while longer while he focuses on healing and clearing his headspace.
In the past, my human self might have felt let down by that silence on a holiday. But today, I realize this message was better than any physical gift. A bouquet of flowers eventually dies, but the truth and the commitment to doing the inner work—that is what builds the foundation of a Divine connection. It was a gift of honesty and soul-alignment, which is far more nurturing than a standard card could ever be.
Refusing to Gaslight the Soul
Our journeys are challenging. We meet our Divine Counterparts and we want to be loved. Even if the purpose is inner union, it doesn’t take away the human desire to be cherished. I’ve heard people say we should "ignore those feelings and focus within."
The truth? Trying to ignore it only makes it louder.
Ignoring our desires is just a form of gaslighting ourselves—something many of us have already endured for years from others. It is more than okay to want to be spoiled today, and every other day of the year.
The Path Forward
What do we do with these wounds as they surface? We sit with them. We acknowledge them. We LOVE them. We recognize them for what they are: a blessing. Even if today brought up deep-rooted feelings, we feel them with gratitude.
So, to the Divine Feminine on Valentine’s Day: Please know that you are not alone. If you are feeling "all the feels," give yourself grace. There is a beautiful purpose to everything.
And if nobody told you today: I LOVE YOU! YOU ARE A TOTAL BADASS!